DS just brought out a mug and card he made for his dad :(

[catcameback]

It's so sad.  I read the card, it's handmade and says "I miss you." and has a picture of a crying face ds drew.

The mug is decorated with ds's drawings and has a ribbon tied around the handle.

It's so sad.  Ds cried as he showed it to me and told me "I made this.  Ramone (classmate) made a mug and card for his mom but I didn't want to, I wanted to make this for daddy even if he not allowed to have it."

Goddamit  wish my ex DH could just pull his shit together!  I hate this.  I fucking HATE this.  Why does ds have to go through this pain? I wish I could force the dumb asshole to just be right.  Take the medications the psych. gives you. Piss in the damn cup the social worker hands you.  Act normal for a whole damn hour for your kid.  You can go back to be a douche after that, but for ONE HOUR a month, can't you get your shit together for the kid who loves you and doesn't even care that you are a douche?!

I told Z I would ask the social worker to pass them along to exdh, and he was happy.  Ectatic actually.

How shitty is it when your kid gets excited that a social worker will pass a gift along?  That the closest my kid gets to having a relationship with his dad is putting a gift in a social workers hands to be passed along a few weeks later.

I'm just venting because it's shitty and there isn't anything I can do to fix this or prevent this pain.  And I so want to fix it and protect ds from this pain.  Bash away.

[ttriddick]

That is so sad. But also a testimony to what a sweet and caring child you have. :(

[JenB1983]

:-(
I'm so sorry for your boy.

[ramita]

I feel your pain my SS has gone through that with his mom, except there was no social worker.

[svolkov]

Thats very sad :( does he have a grandpa? If so id make a big father's day thing for him

[OwlNuggets]

What kind of programs are available to your son like Boys and Girls Club?

He may benefit from a Big Brother or a male Mentor in his life.

[catcameback]

I never thought of it that way, he is really caring though, thanks.

Quoting ttriddick: That is so sad. But also a testimony to what a sweet and caring child you have. :(

[catcameback]

No grandpa, last year he made a present for his uncle, which was sweet.  This year he just wanted to make a gift for his dad I guess.

Quoting svolkov: Thats very sad :( does he have a grandpa? If so id make a big father's day thing for him

[catcameback]

I did aply for the big brother thing, but they said because he is autistic they couldn't accept him into their program.  He is close with his uncle though, so he does have a male role model.

Quoting OwlNuggets:

What kind of programs are available to your son like Boys and Girls Club?

He may benefit from a Big Brother or a male Mentor in his life.

[svolkov]

Maybe make something to take to a retirement home?

Quoting catcameback:

No grandpa, last year he made a present for his uncle, which was sweet.  This year he just wanted to make a gift for his dad I guess.

Quoting svolkov: Thats very sad :( does he have a grandpa? If so id make a big father's day thing for him

[redneckmama4]

I'm sorry :(