It isn't selfishness that causes a person to commit suicide, so can we all just PLEASE stop saying that suicide is selfish? I lost a very good friend this week to an intentional overdose. She had breast cancer in 2002. She had a double mastectomy. She then went through chemo and radiation. Besides my Father, I have never seen another person that ill in my life. Just like my dad, she had to stop treatment several times to build back up enough to be able to take another treatment. She told me in 2003 if the cancer came back, she would die before going through chemo and radiation again. 2 months ago the doctor discovered it was back...in her lungs this time(she only told her husband and adult child). She called me last week and told me where to find some letters she had written for family and friends (in case anything happened to her) . She was so upbeat and normal that I had no reason to think anything was out of the ordinary. We have known eachother almost 30 years and she has always given me info like this (in case of emergency kind of stuff). Tuesday morning she woke up, made her husband a big breakfast and sent him off to work. She took a bath and put on her makeup and her favorite dress, then took 2 bottles of sedatives and fell asleep permanently. When I found out she had developed lung cancer, all my questions were answered. Yesterday at the memorial service I walked into the kitchenette to get some coffee and overheard one of her neighbors talking about "what a horribly selfish thing to do". I walked out before I did something like measure that ladies neck with my hands! I think it's selfish to expect people to endure things like cancer (and many other issues) just so we can have them with us a little longer. I also think we should stop judging what WE think others should or should not do. Every person has the right to live and die on their own terms. I will forever miss Elise and am so happy I had her in my life. Even in his pain, her husband said he didn't blame her..but her neighbor does blame her. Unfreakingbelievable! This doesn't portray the circumstances of most suicides but the sentiments remain the same. PLEASE do not use this as an opportunity to bash my dead friend or her family...I won't respond because I will have nothing kind to say.
on Jun. 14, 2014 at 5:36 PM