Does "no" really require an explanation? I have been watching my 9 year old niece today, I don't mind because I want her to have a better summer than she did last year......but I also refuse to treat her better than I do my own kids. All day today its been "can we do this, can we do that?" And all day my answer has been no....which has been followed by a "why not"....."well no we can't go swimming because I don't want to watch 4 kids by myself when my son wants my full attention in the pool".......period.....that should be it.....but it was followed by a "I can take care of so and so" um no you can't because you are not an expert swimmer yourself......and now my mil came home and brought along with her my 3yo niece, my niece whom I love but doesn't listen to ANYONE including her own mother...so my niece asks me if we all can go outside so theu can ride bikes....again its a no because I don't want to deal with two kids who won't listen to me...at least with my son I can put him inside with his father for a few minutes and he is good the rest of the night. But that would put me alone at watching 5 kids by myself while they ride their bikes....no just isn't enough, after all she told me that she would take care of herself, then it was I will take care of the two little ones and my oldest dd would help, so the only one I would have to take care of would be my middle baby.....I just don't want to babysit all these kids...i had three kids because that is all I wanted and that is all I want to take care of....is that not a good enough reason?