MIL goes behind my back after I say no!!! GAH! **Update**
First, I am not one of those super freak moms who won't ever let her child have anything sugary/sweet. HOWEVER, my child is only 11 months old and I am trying very hard to keep her diet healthy. Fruits, veggies, and lean protiens, as best as I possibly can.
My MIL is always trying to shove junk food, fattening foods, and sugar down DD's throat. She seems to think that now that we are giving her table food that it's OK for her to just let her eat anything and everything. DD is petite, we give her more than enough food at mealtimes, but for some reason, my MIL is sneaking unapproved food into her mouth every chance she gets.
Today for example: we were at the IL's for lunch. MIL had made "Pink fluff" which is marshmallows, canned fruit cocktail, whipped cream, and strawberry jello (uncooked) all mixed up together. I think it's gross. MIL isn't that good of a cook/baker whatever you wanna call it. Anyway, she mentioned that she made some and that she used sugar-free jello and light marshmallows, so it would be perfectly safe for DD to eat it. I said, "well, I'd really rather her not have any of that. She doesn't need that kind of food in her system right now. Her body is still adjusting to new foods." That must have upset MIL because as we were cleaning up dinner I saw her stick her finger, covered in the nasty "pink fluff", into dd's mouth. She looked right at me after she did it and I gave her a look of "are you freaking kidding me?!" She wiped off the mess from her face and said as she walked away, "oh...we'll just have to wait till your birthday I guess."
I don't expect her not to spoil the kids. Whatever. That's fine. But when I say "NO" it means "NO!" It doesn't mean, "oh mom says no, but it's OK because grandma says yes." Not how it works woman. I'm the mother, not you. If I don't want her eating your nasty sugary junk then she's not going to be eating it. MIL thinks she's making these food healthy by using "light" or "sugar-free" products, but she doesn't even realize that those products are just as bad, if not worse, than the regular stuff. GAH! THE WOMAN DRIVES ME NUTS!!
I talked to DH this morning. He was not happy that she had complete disrespect for my wishes. He is planning to talk with her as soon as he gets the chance. He said, "this is a matter of respecting our wishes and doing what we ask. If they can't follow simple requests while we're there, how can they expect us to leave dd with them and trust that they will follow our instructions?"