Two weeks ago dh got a call from his bio mom. This is the first time he spoke to his bio mom since he was 3 years old (he is 33 years old now). She said she got ahold of his adopted sister and she gave her his number. Dh told her on the first phone conversation that he would not call her mom. That he prefer she call him by his fisrt name and not refer to him as, "son." He doesn't view her as his mother because his mother is the women who raised him. She agreed and was totally okay with it. Well on the first phone conversation they talked about themselves. Basically things like where they lived, any kids, married, job, ect. On the first phone conversation he got to speak with his half sister. His half sister and his mom by the end of the conversation were inviting us up to there place for the holidays, asking to meet up and wanting to make phone calls regular. Dh said he needed sometime.
Well 2 days later his bio mom texted him pictures of herself, his half sister and his half brother. They look nothing alike. She is 5'7 266lbs, short black curly hair, a fat nose, tiny ears, big eyes and wears glasses. His half sister is about the same except has a very fat face and big ears. Same with his half brother. The whole family is short, fat and just dumpy looking. Dh is 5'5 128lbs has short dark hair small tear drop shaped eyes, a small nose and is well built. He in some way questions if this is his real mother because all of them look alike and he looks nothing like them.
Well yesterday she called to wish him a happy father's day and she called him, "son." Dh got upset with her and told her again not to calll him son. She mentioned how it'd be nice if they could meet up sometime soon. Dh isn't comfortable meeting up with her and really doesn't have the time between 4 kids, work and helping me take care of my aging and ill parents. Not to mention he has doubt if this women really is his mom. dh is afraid to ask for a dna test.
I don't know what to do or to tell him. how do I approach this?