DD, 21 has struggled with Anorexia since she was 13. She has been in patient twice for a few months at a time. We have almost lost her twice, she was so sick. She is much better, looks healthy and hasn't been in treatment in 2 years. Graduated early from school (tested out) went to college and has a great job. She has learned to handle it and control it herself. The family, due to therapy knows what to say and do, to help her.
My aunt has never been supportive or sensative to the situation. She was over here for dinner last night. When DD made her plate, measuring everything, carefully choosing what foods to eat, we just ignored her, as we know this is what she needs to do. My aunt tells her, "Put more food on that plate, you need more meat on your bones, no man likes a boney woman". My jaw hit the floor, I was so angry. When I quickly, and quietly basically told her to shut the hell up, she followed up loudly with "Anorexia is a rich white persons disease, us black folk know what its like to really be hungry, so we don't waste food".
I'm was so angry, I asked her to leave. But DD heard her and things like that leave a lasting impression. My aunt will not be welcomed in my home again.