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Child support... using it as vacation money

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My dd's birthday is Labor Day weekend. I always take her for a weekend trip. We either go to the beach or camping. Well this is the first year that I don't have the money for it. I was planning on telling her tonight. I knew she would be upset.

I am a single mom and I pay for everything my girls need. I haven't received any cs is over a year. The last payment I received was for $100. I have received a total of $400 cs for two kids in 5 years. 

So anyway, I was planning on telling her tonight. I was going to tell her that we could probably do a trip after school starts back. Summer camp is so expensive and it is really hitting my budget hard. But guess what? I just got a check in the mail for $600.00. All of our bills are paid, I just don't have extra money to take her on her bday trip. But now I do! I plan on taking her to Pensacola. I feel like sending my ex a thank you note, lol. 

I plan on spending $300 for the room and puting the other $300 in my girls savings accounts. By the time Labor Day gets here, I will have enough spending money. I just couldn't pay for the room this month and by next month all the decent hotels will be full. 

My bff says that I shouldn't use it for a trip, but I don't see the problem. The trip is for my dd. The only trips we take are their birthday weekend trips (both girls get one). 

I know that I CAN spend it on whatever I want, but do you think what I am doing is wrong (on a moral level)?

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:19 PM
Replies (11-20):
JDmommyJD
by ♥Awesome Sauce♥ on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:31 PM
1 mom liked this
Girl, you go on that trip!
mamatink7
by on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:32 PM

no issue...it is money for you to use on child as you so choose it

crysiann
by Platinum Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:33 PM
No, not at all. Enjoy your trip!!
mantyangel
by Platinum Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:34 PM
1 mom liked this

Not wrong.  Enjoy the trip.

PrettyGirlMyers
by Bronze Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:37 PM
3 moms liked this

You're not doing anything wrong! You could think of it as him reimbursing you for covering absolutely everything while he's contributed almost nothing if it makes you feel better...

one_on_the_way
by Silver Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:47 PM

It is absolutely NOT WRONG on a moral level - or any other level. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:52 PM
You support your children on your own for the most part. You could spend it on a spa weekend for you and still not be wrong. Well maybe that wouldn't be the best financial decision, but my point is - it is your money - those actual dollars don't have to be spent on necessities for the kids.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:55 PM
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Any trip with my kids is fun : )

Quoting WesAndNicksMom: You can do whatever you want with it, especially since you've been paying for his part for years. Have fun!!!


mom2gmp2
by Silver Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:55 PM
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I hope y'all have fun here. :)
brime98
by Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:55 PM
2 moms liked this
I say, enjoy! I only find fault wirh cs spending when the kids are going without, so mom can have her mani pedi.
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