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Child support... using it as vacation money

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My dd's birthday is Labor Day weekend. I always take her for a weekend trip. We either go to the beach or camping. Well this is the first year that I don't have the money for it. I was planning on telling her tonight. I knew she would be upset.

I am a single mom and I pay for everything my girls need. I haven't received any cs is over a year. The last payment I received was for $100. I have received a total of $400 cs for two kids in 5 years. 

So anyway, I was planning on telling her tonight. I was going to tell her that we could probably do a trip after school starts back. Summer camp is so expensive and it is really hitting my budget hard. But guess what? I just got a check in the mail for $600.00. All of our bills are paid, I just don't have extra money to take her on her bday trip. But now I do! I plan on taking her to Pensacola. I feel like sending my ex a thank you note, lol. 

I plan on spending $300 for the room and puting the other $300 in my girls savings accounts. By the time Labor Day gets here, I will have enough spending money. I just couldn't pay for the room this month and by next month all the decent hotels will be full. 

My bff says that I shouldn't use it for a trip, but I don't see the problem. The trip is for my dd. The only trips we take are their birthday weekend trips (both girls get one). 

I know that I CAN spend it on whatever I want, but do you think what I am doing is wrong (on a moral level)?

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:19 PM
Replies (531-540):
peanutxc09
by Member on Jun. 20, 2014 at 11:52 AM
Yes I would use it for the trip for your child since its for the child and all their other needs are met.

How has your ex gotten away with not paying cs does he not work or something? My husband pays cs for his 2 kids and it comes straight out of his check and goes into an account which the bm has a debit card and checks she can use for the account. This is how all of the cs is set up in my state unless agreed not to do it this way by both parties. That way neither side can argue if they paid or didn't pay it's just taken right out of the parents check that is paying the cs.
Peterrabbit
by Member on Jun. 20, 2014 at 12:42 PM
It is sad but his loss. She is almost 15 and honor roll student, a dancer and plays the trumpet. SShe is aturning out to be a fantastic young adult

Quoting Anonymous:

That is so sad. My ex bought the girls a Christmas present 6 months after we split up. He hasn't sent so much as a birthday card since. I just don't understand. 

Quoting Peterrabbit: Spend the money. I haven't got cs in 12 years. He bought her a Christmas present two yrs ago.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jun. 20, 2014 at 2:28 PM

He has garnishments in effect but he dodges them. He works until the cs office finds him. As soon as he is notified that his wages will be garnished, he quits his job. 

Quoting peanutxc09: Yes I would use it for the trip for your child since its for the child and all their other needs are met. How has your ex gotten away with not paying cs does he not work or something? My husband pays cs for his 2 kids and it comes straight out of his check and goes into an account which the bm has a debit card and checks she can use for the account. This is how all of the cs is set up in my state unless agreed not to do it this way by both parties. That way neither side can argue if they paid or didn't pay it's just taken right out of the parents check that is paying the cs.


peanutxc09
by Member on Jun. 21, 2014 at 1:39 PM
Oh that's horrible. That's one thing I love about my husband he does what he should financially and also involved in their lives.

Go enjoy your vacation.


Quoting Anonymous:

He has garnishments in effect but he dodges them. He works until the cs office finds him. As soon as he is notified that his wages will be garnished, he quits his job. 

Quoting peanutxc09: Yes I would use it for the trip for your child since its for the child and all their other needs are met.

How has your ex gotten away with not paying cs does he not work or something? My husband pays cs for his 2 kids and it comes straight out of his check and goes into an account which the bm has a debit card and checks she can use for the account. This is how all of the cs is set up in my state unless agreed not to do it this way by both parties. That way neither side can argue if they paid or didn't pay it's just taken right out of the parents check that is paying the cs.

shaay_5
by on Jun. 22, 2014 at 6:08 AM

i see no problem you daughter will use some of the money and since you have been paying for everything enjoy yourself

reinydawn
by on Jun. 22, 2014 at 5:52 PM

What you're doing is exactly right.  Part of the child support is for vacations.  If she's still got food and clothing, and a roof over her head, then go!

cranky_anthony
by on Jun. 22, 2014 at 10:18 PM
Not wrong. The money is for the support of a child. You are supporting your daughter on their birthday! Lol
TheSilence
by Tá mé an mó on Jun. 22, 2014 at 10:21 PM
I would use the money to make your daughter happy!
Diane1223
by Silver Member on Jun. 24, 2014 at 1:13 AM

I think that since it is for the child...its fine

bhejlik
by Bronze Member on Jun. 27, 2014 at 4:46 PM

Go woman! $600 over 2 years. That's not support. Take that vacation. It's for all of you. 

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