I honestly do not know how to make my 2 teenagers happy any more. When I have money to spare I allow them to go to the mall or movies with friends. I allow them to have sleep over at friends if I know the parents and I welcome all friends here.
This weekend one wants me to drive an hour and half down to a grad party, drive home and drive back down at her call and back home. I said NO as I don't have the gas money plus she hasn't done any chores. Yes, she has pack part of her room but its not fully done. All she has done today is scream at me over it.
The other wants me to take him to his "girlfriends" house leave him there with no parents at home and pick him up when he calls. I said no and now he is demanding to go live with his REAL FAMILY aka his dad. His dad hasn't been in life since he was 6 years old but any time he gets mad he says he wants to live with his dad. Twice in the last 3 years I've talked to my ex and we start to make arrangements for DS to go live with him and DS freaks out that he doesn't want that.
Both say I don't love them nor trust them. I said fine we get to Texas you do what ever you want and you deal with the outcomes. I set ground rules that Sun-Thursday they have to be home by 10pm and Fri-Sat they have to be home by 12am now both are screaming that isn't what they want. Ok tell me what you want and they said I'm just a bitch that doesn't understand this is the 21st century.
Ladies how do I make them happy? DD will be 14 end of Aug and DS will be 16 mid of Sept.
Yes, life has been rough we live pay check to pay check but when we have money to spare we treat them to what they would like to do. We are moving to make their lives better so were not living pay check to pay check any more.