I actually feel physically ill. Is this punishment to harsh? *Update page 19*
My oldest daughter (almost 13) has been very lucky in the bedroom department. She not only has one of the biggest bedrooms, but since there is an almost 6 year age gap between her and my middle daughter, DH and I agreed it seemed only right to give her one of the two extra bedrooms with an en suite bathroom. My two younger DD's share an interconnecting bathroom between their bedrooms, my younget son has the third en suited bedroom, and everybody else uses the family bathroom.
In our house, even though we have a cleaner come twice a week, it has always been our childrens responsibilty to clean their own bedrooms, and over the last year or so that responsibility has extended to DD's bathroom as well.
I never had any reason to believe that this would be an issue. DD has always kept her room immaculate. She is typically one of those people with which everything has its place and everything is in its place. This would extend to other areas of our house like the playroom and family room. So I always assumed this would extend to her bathroom as well, and never felt any reason to check it after the first couple of weeks.
However, this morning DD borrowed a scarf from my wardrobe and didn't give it back before heading out to our local stables, however texted me to tell me it was in her bathroom.
I just went to retrieve it and the smell hit me first. The bathroom is filthy, and I mean filthy. Used tissues, cotten buds and dirty clothes covering the floor, make up and toothpaste over every surface, sanitary bin hasn't been emptied, toilet hasn't been flushed (and I am not talking about pee). It is disgusting. I am disgusted by her. This is beyond a simple reminder in my book, even if a first offence.
So what I am planning to do is get in there myself later this morning, strip it down and scrub it. Then I am going to lock it for a month. She will have to share the family bathroom with her brothers and stepsiblings. And I am going to make her clean it once a week for that month under my close supervision. My hope is that she will learn that it's no fun sharing and cleaning up after others and learn to appreciate the privilege she has been given that her siblings would kill for.
Do you think this is appropriate punishment?