I have been in a relationship with my husband for 8 years, but we've been married for almost 4. We have two amazing kids together. However, recently we have felt out of sync. He recently confessed to me that he felt the same and was seriously contemplating asking me for a divorce. At first he said he couldn't tell me why,but then he told me he felt I'm not ambitious and I am okay with settling for things just the way they are. We live in a low income housing and have since he moved in with me before we had children. I have been a stay at home mom as well as a working mom during this time. I have supported him through every new venture he has tried. However, when I recently tried out for the police force, I didn't make it and was asked to try again in a few months. He added that I didn't really make any effort and basically hinted that I will never be able to take care of myself. Let me add that I work, clean the house and take care of the kids all without his help whcih I have done whether or not he had a job at the time. He does help financially but for the most part everything from paying bills to just about anything to do with the children is all on me. Whenever he does help financially he acts as if it a big hassle even though he 3x as much as I do and I never ask unless it is something that the house or the kids need. He even spent his birthday at a club with his cousins and friends to which I was not invited.
I just don't think I can do it anymore. Whenever we have a issue, he is ready to throw in the towel rather than work it out even when we have small problems. I'm tired of waiting it out or talking through it. I love him and he says he still loves me but I don't think that is enough anymore. I don't like limbo. I'm just not sure what to do.