My daughter and husband are fighting over her engagement :(
She's 29 and very feminist minded. My husband is very traditional and conservative. With my other daughters, there was the expectation her boyfriend would ask for permission if he was planning to propose. All of our other daughters followed through on this, and he was very pleased and happy to be included in that way.
My daughter had apparently told her boyfriend for years that she doesn't want that, she thinks it's stupid, etc. well, when she told me and hubby they were engaged, my husband got upset. He called her boyfriend disrespectful, told her he was ashamed of her going about it that way and said he couldn't support the wedding when it came about like that. She just rolled her eyes and said "fine dad, don't support it. If you want to have a tantrum, be my guest. You're a grown man, I'm not a child, and you're being absolutely pathetic" and they left.
Neither is budging on this. I talked to him and he's being stubborn and won't apologize. I talked to her and she's being just as stubborn, and got angry at me too for taking his side. Idk what to do. Any advice, mamas?