My son received a scholarship and is an honor student. The scholarship is for $1000 dollars a semester, and the tuition is $8500 a semester. He's also going to need to get a reliable car for commuting. We also have a daughter attending the community college, and pay for most of her tuition. My children both have part time jobs and pay for some of their expenses. They are both good kids. My husband and I help them as much as we can. We both work hard, but the money flies out as soon as it comes in.
My husband's father is financially well set. In the past he mentioned helping the kids with college tuition and vehicles, but he hasn't said anything lately. Our son could use some financial help right now. He could possibly get student loans, but the interest rates are so high, and there's no guarantee he'll get a job in his field when he graduates.
My husband's sister and her 18 year old son live with my father in law.She's 40, but lives like an overgrown teenager. She wastes her money being a "Sugar Momma" to her"Boy Toy" boyfriend, and plastic surgery. My father in law is planning to buy my nephew a pretty new car(2012), and also pay for him to go to the community college. I am upset! What message does this send to my children? That he values my nephew more? My nephew is spoiled like his mother. Any money he's earned, he's spent on frivolous stuff. My kids actually have saved some money.
My husband doesn't want to say anything, but I think we should ask if he could help our son now too.-especially since he mentioned it in the past, and could afford it. Why should our children be treated second rate. I think the grandchildren should be treated equally.
My parents are deceased as well as my hubby's mom,so Gramps is the only relative we can ask for help, and he is well off.
My sister in law has never been married, and nephew never met his dad. Do you think this is why Grandpa thinks it's ok to do more for him. Do you think he thinks at all about how this makes my kids feel? It does bother them that he gets special treatment, and I don't understand how he doesn't see that this would cause hurt feelings.
What do you think? What would you do? I feel really badly about the situation. : ( Grandpa is generally a kind, generous man. We see him all the time.