So I talked dh into sd attending summer school for help with her autism and possibly get sd into a school disigned for kids with disabilities.
Bm misses a lot of visits with sd out of her own doing but during the summer she acts like she never misses a min of sds life.
So because she was going to be with us this summer I signed her up for this summer swim team and some of the meets fall on days she goes to her bms. I talked to bm and I told her I could sign sd up for the meets or I don't have to. Bm said don't but I'm worried if I don't then if bm flakes out on sd then sd will be disappointed not only because her mom didn't get her but also because she didn't get to a fun thing with her friends.
Dh and my mom both told me not to sign sd up let her feel disappointed and dh said he will have another thing to bitch at bm about.
I feel like it's unfair to sd I mean I can cancel the meet stuff the day of the events (I have to ask her coach about one of the two meets but I think I can cancel both events.) However if I don't sign her up then she looses out on a lot of fun stuff at bms expenses yes but she's 9 and has a disability she doesn't see it like that all she sees it as is she can't swim with her sister or her friends. So what would you do?