Mil related: Somebody is being ridiculous and I'm pretty sure it's not me UPDATE!! 2nd UPDATE 3rd (final) Update!
She responded by telling him that she doesn't want to come out here and she would prefer that we buy 3 plane tickets, rent an rv and park in their yard for a week. This is not financially possible for us but dh is trying to find some way to make it work because he loves his mother. He also didn't see any of this from my perspective of the daughter-in-law who is not at all liked because she always makes sure to put on this sickeningly sweet act when he is around but then goes around saying all sorts of garbage to other relatives and friends about me. Hence I have zero desire to go out there at all.
I am frustrated for several reasons, not least of which is that she is constantly expecting dh to spend money on his siblings/ her and on the rate occasions that I have talked with her she goes on and on like he has all this money to burn and that is simply not the case. (If only you could have heard her go on when we were planning our wedding!) Our offer to fly her out was very generous given our financial situation but now I feel like she is throwing it back at us saying it's not good enough. Also I have no desire to spend a week in an rv in the crazy humidity of her region and dealing with in-laws who have spent the last 8 years treating me like garbage.
Sorry it's so long. Thanks for the opportunity to vent.
UPDATE: Omg, he just emailed and said he thinks we can make it work if we tighten things up here and there. I do NOT want to do this at all. Her coming here was one thing, but spending however long in this situation with people who consider me scum but act like total trash is just not something I'm up for right now.... How did such a great (if blissfully ignorant guy) come from such a wretched family? Help.
2nd Update: Well I emailed him back and told him that I didn't want to go for a variety of reasons but that I was choosing to focus on the financial aspect of it and also that I felt like she was throwing our offer back and saying it wasn't good enough by insisting that we spend more than 3 times the amount her ticket would have cost. This is why email should not exist. Now I'm really in a hole.
Shortly after I sent it my mom told to suck it up and be the better person. I know she's right, but I'm
tired of always having to be the better person. lol
3rd Update: Just got a text from him saying he's decided to completely cancel any sort of travel in either direction. Don't know entirely what made up his mind, but all I have to say is Thank Goodness!!