I've been reading a lot about this on here, and here's my situation:
I have a "man child" brother in his 40's who lives with my parents. He's been DWId and in trouble with drugs. Now he works pumping gas, and spends his money on beer, while freeloading off my parents. He spends his free time watching cartoons and playing video games. He has a 19 year old son, who has also been in trouble with drugs. He's totaled 2 of my parents cars cause of careless driving. He's not in school, and just started working at WalMart. He also lives with my parents. His mother is in jail for heroin, and my parents try to overcompensate by spoiling him.
The latest is they just bought him a brand new car! I have a 20 year old son. He is in college, on the Dean's List, and has a job. His car is on it's last leg, and my parents know this. We are trying to scrape together money to help get him a reliable car, and this really hurts! My parents could have bought both boys reliable used cars with the money they spent!
Why do grandparents/parents feel the need to pamper the family screw ups? Don't they see how damaging this is to the good kids? Don't they realize they're enabling/rewarding bad behavior.
We're supposed to see them on July 4th, and I have to say something about this blatant display of favortism! What would you say? My son is hurt and confused by their actions. : (
*I don't want to hear from all you self-righteous moms that they can spend their money as they want. Blah, blah, blah. This is clearly wrong, and they need to be called on it! So please don't post. I want advice on how to talk with them about this. My son has been hurt by their actions!