I am a SAHM and have been for about 18 months now. A couple of months ago I added another child to our home to make some extra money during the day. I'm going to add another after summer break (we have 5 children, oldest though is 13.5). I have a strict daily schedule I keep with the kiddos and am working extremely hard developing their tiny brains and bodies! I treat my SAHM status as a job and take it seriously.
Every day, my dh gets up at 5:30 am to go to work. He has a stressful job as an operations manager of a large flooring company. When he gets home from work, he immediately starts making supper. He feels, seeing as I'm with the children all day long, and have an extra toddler around, I'm working just as hard as he is and wants to contribute to our home. He makes us the most delicious meals. Rarely just something thrown together. Today, he made sweet and sour farmers sausage in the slow cooker, garlic mash potatos and carrots seasoned with a touch of brown sugar. All from scratch. While he slaves away in the kitchen, I enjoy a cup of tea with my feet up and direct the children to dh so I can have a breather.
Last weekend I went out with my mom and she made a comment about how she remembers how tough it is to be a SAHM. Then remarked that I'd never know exactly what it's like because I don't even have to prepare dinner! WTH? And my mil made a snarly comment about how I've got it too good. Kind of makes me wonder if I'm expecting too much from him. Am I a lazy SAHM in your opinion?!