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Dating a man during a divorce makes you trashy

Anonymous
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My exh started dating this girl a month after I filed for divorce.  All throughout the divorce he kept claiming he loved me and to stop in while he was sleeping with her.  She sent me this message the other day and I had to laugh.

"I love all kids been around them all my life I can see where the concern factor for them comes Into play in this situation.. I would never do anything to harm them or my family for that matter.,however one thing for sure I'm not trashy and I have never dated someone married before or anything close.,I don't like cheaters and I don't know what all this is"

My response was

"Exh was married when you started dating him. That makes you a cheater. 

Also, exh choosing to spend nye with you having sex when he just met you over being with his kids for the holiday shows a lot about both of you."
Do you think its trashy or is it just me?
    Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:13 PM
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    Anonymous
    by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:14 PM
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    I think once the divorce has been filed, the relationship is over. The rest is a piece of paper.
    sandra_t00
    by ChaChi on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:15 PM
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    I don't think it's trashy. Kind of messed up yea, but not trashy. You may still be legally married, but the relationship and all that it entails is over. All that binds you is a piece of paper.
    Anonymous
    by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:16 PM
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    It's wasn't cheating you already filed for divorce.

    It was also his choice not to spend the time with HIS kids.
    Remy11
    by Gold Member on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:17 PM
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    I don't think it's trashy at all. Once the marriage is over and both parties agreed that the divorce is going forward what does it matter? Not cheating as they are no longer in a relationship.
    Bubbie0809
    by Dreaded hippie on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:18 PM
    This.


    Quoting Remy11: I don't think it's trashy at all. Once the marriage is over and both parties agreed that the divorce is going forward what does it matter? Not cheating as they are no longer in a relationship.
    Lilith23
    by Platinum Member on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:21 PM
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    It's not to be mean but; you did not want him back, and the divorce was basically the final option....so she did nothing wrong.
    You both let each other go, that's it.
    She's not trashy, you're hurt.
    Kat31
    by AlwaysWatching on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:22 PM
    Divorces can take years.
    Anonymous
    by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:23 PM

     Ours took 8 months. 

    Quoting Kat31: Divorces can take years.

     

    Danesmommy1
    by Grammar Enthusiast on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:23 PM
    You filed for divorce, a divorce was in the works, he didn't cheat.
    casah4
    by Gold Member on Jul. 4, 2014 at 11:24 PM
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    Nope. Once you decide to end the relationship, you're free to see other people. If you know it's over, there's no problem moving on, IMO.

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