So heres what Right of First Refusal means, since most folks probably don't encounter this every day:
Right of first refusal is not something one would use against the other parent. It is designed so that if the parent with current physical custody is going to need someone else to watch the child, the other parent gets first dibs.
If you plan to use this to screw each other (like saying yes then backing out at the last second so the ex can't go on her date or whatever) or use it to police and monitor your exs partners activities, then just leave it alone.
Technically, if your using ROFR then your boufriend would need to be the one that was home while the two of you had his daughter. Dads GF does not get a role in this.
Also, ROFR does not trump school, preschool or even daycare in most situations. This is for one-off child care needs.
How to allocate parenting time in shared parenting situations is not always laid out in black-and-white, but the right of first refusal can help make this easier. Right of first refusal in custody situations commonly means that one parent must first offer the other parent the opportunity to look after their kids before contacting a babysitter or another family member to care for the children.
Right of first refusal typically applies to both planned and last minute situations. Therefore, if a parent makes plans for night out with friends two months, or even two days, prior to the actual event, they must offer the other parent the option to care for their children before making any other arrangements. If the other parent decides not to take the kids during this time, then a third party caretaker such as a friend, babysitter or other family member may be asked to care for the children instead. Right of first refusal may also apply to situations such as doctor’s appointments, vacations, after school daycare, and many other instances.
What if we got married?
Quoting Anonymous: You're just a live in gf so I doubt they'd give him custody based on your unemployment. Shes mom, hes dad, you're dads girlfriend, you don't get rights to their kid
Quoting Anonymous: What if we got married?Quoting Anonymous: You're just a live in gf so I doubt they'd give him custody based on your unemployment. Shes mom, hes dad, you're dads girlfriend, you don't get rights to their kid
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