Update- The visit went well. My husband said that he didn't feel uncomfortable at all. My father played with Raymond and was very proud of him. My father has lived far away for many years. Due to his age and failing health, he moved back closer. I'm hoping to continue visits and establish a positive healthy relationship between him and my entire family. I'm hoping that when he is gone that my kids will have positive memories. He has come a long way from saying that I'd be disowned if I ever got into a relationship with a person of color.
We are getting ready to go see my father. My husband will be meeting him for the first time in the nearly 4 years we have been together.
My father is a racist/bigot. He doesn't refer to any group without using slurs. The people he hates the most are Mexicans and blacks (and people with dwarfism). Well, my husband is Mexican AND black.
The only good thing we have going for us is that he has had 4 years to get used to the idea, he is very happy knowing I'm happy, and he loves his grandson.
So, we'll see how this goes.