I went out with this guy twice. After we had sex,he gradually stopped texting and calling me. I found out I was pregnant three weeks later. Now I'm four months pregnant and I still haven't told him and I'm really struggling with whether or not I should tell him. Part of me knows that I should because it's his child too and he should at least have the choice about whether or not to be a part of his/her life. But then another part of me just doesn't want to have to go through all the hoops of sharing a child,especially with a person I barely know. I'm 25 years old,college educated, I have a stable job,I'm financially secure,I have my own townhouse and a ton of support from my family and friends. I don't need anything from him, if I tell him it will be purely because I feel like he deserves to know, not because I need or want anything from him.
And yes, I know that this is my fault for falling into bed with a man I barely know, so please don't bash me, I'm just looking for advice. It was the first time that anything like that happened to me. I thought he was special and I just fell for the oldest trick in the book :(
Thank you all so much for all the great advice and for not immediately bashing me. After thinking everything over and weighing the pros and cons, I decided that it was best to at least inform him of the pregnancy and then from that point on, he can make his own decisions regarding whether or not he wants to be involved. I called him and he was extremely shocked but we did agree to have dinner with each other tomorrow night to talk and see if we can make some sort of plan. I will let everyone know how it goes after dinner. Thank you so much for your support!