Someone I know just lost her 10 year-old daughter to a very aggressive form of Leukemia. This poor woman has spent the last two years watching her child endure some of the most horrific things... no one, let alone a child, should have to go through this.
She has a Facebook page set up for her daughter to keep everyone updated on her progress. When she posted that she had passed, some of the comments just absolutely infuriated me.
I can't STAND "God has a plan." "Trust God's Plan" and the worst... "God only take takes the best!"
Really? That is supposed to be COMFORTING?!? Let me get this straight. God is a horrible, vindictive, sicko in the sky who intentionally inflicts horrible diseases on innocent children, and forces them to suffer for years with it just to kill them and we're supposed to be cool with that? Oh, and now the child is "with" this sicko and we're supposed to rejoice in that?!? Somehow this doesn't jive with the loving, caring father figure that organized relgion positions him to be.
Do people actually THINK about what this sounds like before they say it? It was God's will this kid suffered so? It was God's will that the mother had to suffer watching her daughter slowly die, day after day for two fucking years? Really?
It is God's will that my own TWO year old has Leukemia? Or the SIX MONTH OLD at the clinic he goes to has Neuroblastoma? The shit I see day in and day out since my son got sick is beyond imaginable.
If its truly God's will that innocent children must suffer so, then hey, he can keep his kingdom, and he can shove it straight up his high and mighty ass. With the thousands of kids that die every year from cancer, not to mention all the other death and destruction of the human race, if its all "His will" then he's basically a damn serial killer.
Hearing shit like, "God only takes the best!" makes me hate religion even more. I don't find this comforting at all. If anything, it pisses me off to no end.
EDITED: Ok, since so many of you are interpreting this as an attack on religion, let me explain my point to you in simpler terms.
I have zero issue with anyone saying, "I will pray for you." "She is in heaven now with God" "She is now an angel in heaven, etc." "She's at peace." etc. It's not the religious context that bothers me.
If you are a Christian, and you believe that God is a loving deity who created all of us in his image, and he especially loves children, then WHY would you say things like "It's God's Plan" when someone suffers a horrible loss like the death of a child. You are telling this person that God in a sense wanted their child to suffer and die. Or "God only takes the best!" You are telling this person that God basically murdered their child. HOW is that comforting? How does that even jive with your understanding of God and Jesus? Because neither of those statements sound anything like the God or Jesus I was taught.
At this point in my life, given everything I have seen and the amount of suffering I have witnessed, do I find solace in religion? No. Right now I have a very hard time believing in anything. It's easier to believe that nothing exists and that none of this is in anyone's control. That's where I'm at right now. I have never personally seen proof of God's existence one way or another, so I don't completely discount the possibility, although I don't think that if He exists, its in the way any of us were taught to believe.
But I have zero issue with anyone's religion. I have Jewish friends, Muslim friends, and Christian friends. I also have atheist friends. It doesn't change my view about how I feel about them at all. I enjoy talking to them about their beliefs and why they feel the way they do. I find religion and its effects on human nature fascinating.
But I can't stomach someone telling a mother who just lost her daughter after watching her suffer for TWO YEARS that it was "God's Plan." Yes, I think that is a very sick thing to say.
I would like to believe that yes, this little girl, who so loved princesses, is now wearing sparkly, hot pink wings and a matching tiara and is dancing with other children in heaven. That sounds lovely... I'd much rather think that if there is a God, he's THAT kind of guy.