Well, lately I can see her lapsing back into the old pattern that caused my husband to seek custody. She is supposed to get her every other weekend but she does well to get her once a month now. She says she works hard and wants time to relax on the weekends. So do I but I still make time for my kids. I don't just send them off for the weekends. I wanted to have a family and a career so I chose a career that would allow me to have time for my family. She has admitted to me that she never wanted to have children but Anna was unplanned, like that excuses it. During the summer, she is supposed to get her every other week. It is usually Tuesday night when she gets her and she brings her back thursday or friday, if she gets her at all. She doesnt have a reliable babysitter, after she fired the last little bitch that babysat Anna. She used to leave her with my mother but she moved closer to her job and it is too far. I have offered for her to stay with us during the day and then let Anna go home with her mother during the night but she doesn't want to drive back and forth.
Basically what my husband thinks, and I agree, is that Leslie doesn't want to be mommy, but she didn't want me to be mommy either, but now she's over it. She likes playing mommy when she feels like it but she doesn't actually want the responsibility. Anna has been begging her to let her call me mommy since her daddy and I got married. Leslie has told her no but recently gave her permission. She has also admitted to me that I am more of a mother to Anna than she is. "Thank God she has you because I'm just not cut out to be a mother."
She can feel that way all she wants. I don't care. I love Anna and I would happily adopt her, but how does she not see how this effects Anna? Can't she see how heartbreaking it is to her to think that her mother doesn't want to spend time with her? Say what you want about career mothers but it is possible to do both. I manage just fine. Leslie chooses not to.
I guess I just need to vent. Leslie was supposed to get Anna Sunday night. It is now Tuesday night and her mother just called to say that she wouldn't be able to get her this week after she PROMISED. She was going to take two weeks off and take Anna to Myrtle Beach for a week and then spend a week at home with her. Anna has been looking forward to this since the plans were made a month ago. Now she is crying because she can't go. Something came up at work. Her mother said "We'll do it next week." and she just said "Yeah. Sure mommy." and hung up the phone and hasn't stopped crying since. I seriously feel like calling her and having it out but my Georgia Redneck temper might get the better of me and I may say something I regret...or punch her in the face. I need to calm down first.
Oh, just a side note, the same thing happened to my stepbrother and sister. Now they are grown with children of their own. They love their mother but they don't have a relationship with her and neither do their kids. They consider my mother their mom. It just breaks their hearts to see it happening to Anna too. I should tell Leslie that. I wonder if she thinks its worth it.