Not married. Long term relationship. Kids with each other only. No plans to go separate ways.
SO does not allow me to have bank access. I have a sharedccredit card. Not allowed to look at the bank account. Not given my own bank card.
His reasons are that I do not make money, don't pay bills (his are laid out electronically and set up easily) and have no need to have access to our money. I disagree. I cannot get cash out if need be. I have no idea how much bills cost and what is paid. We talk about money when we spend anything, on both his side and mine.
Do you think it's disrespectful of him not to allow me access to our family funds? Or is he right to keep family financial information to himself?
ETA: He wants to know why I should have access to the bank account. He does not get it.
ETA 2: He says he's hurt by what you're saying. He isn't controlling at all (he isn't except for this. I spend our money and make almost all non-bill purchases). He says that you all have trust issues because you don't agree with him. He said I because I am a SAHM and he helps around the house I shouldn't have access, dishes, dinner, bathing the kids, etc. (That's a new thing for me until tonight)
ETA 3: He added me to the bank account.