OK so I'm writing this hoping someone on here has a similar situation or at least can understand where I am coming from or tell me honestly I'm dead wrong and need to shed the baggage.....here's the story, I have a male guy friend who I've had since I was 10....that makes it a 20 year friendship. We have never been anything except friends....ever! So all throughout our dating years (with other people of course) one of the first things we told the person we were dating was that we had a very close friend of the opposite sex and if there was going to be any issue with that then their was no use in wasting anyone's time. We both lost several partners along the way who just couldn't understand the friendship. So then I started dating my husband....I told him the same thing I've told everyone else. He said he could deal with it....didn't really like it but he could deal with it....my guy friend had already met his now wife at this time she was told the same thing. And she had a hard time understanding but after a long while she accepted and embraced my friendship as well. I love her as I do all my friends. So anyways 10 years later and 3 kids for my husband and I and a set of twins for my friend and his wife my husband met my friend today for the first time while I offered to babysit his twins in my home daycare....by the way I discussed this with my husband and he voiced no concerns he said OK so I proceeded. OK so he met my friend after 10 years of him obviously avoiding any kind of contact with him and my husband was so rude! I felt so embarrassed by his stand off actions towards my friend because my husband is a very likable man! So after my friend left I've tried several times to talk to my husband about it because he had a bad attitude all evening and the last thing I want is him to feel threatened in his ozwn home.he insist nothing is wrong and he doesn't have an issue with the twins being here.....I offered to stop watching them if it was going to be an issue he said no but its obviously an issue! The agreement is to watch the twins 1 day a week for the next 3 weeks that's it. Keep in mind my friend and I only talk like once every 3-4 months out of respect for our spouses. Am I wrong to have this friend continue to be in my life or does my husband just have trust issues?