I'm in need of some serious perspective or at least a venue in which to vent. MIL has complained to DH that I don't let her watch our kids at her home. I mean, I would let my 7 yo but not my 2 yo. The reason? She has a gigantic pool in her backyard that is not fenced. When DS was born years ago, I asked her about putting up a fence to keep DS out (because when he was super little he would go right up to the pool) and she said no because it wouldn't "look right" with her garden design.... So.... I didn't really leave him with her at her home alone until he knew how to swim.
Fast forward to today. She's still peeved that I won't drop the kids off at her house, but she won't come to our house to watch them either. DH says it's because she has a huge house with a huge yard and why would she want to slum it in our teeny tiny 2 bedroom house??
Anyway, I guess I'm just venting, but I really am feeling resentful that DH is pissed at me because I won't do it. Am I being too paranoid here?? I have no qualms about hanging out WITH them at her house, because I'd watch my toddler like a hawk, but I'm not 100% sure MIL would do the same on her own (she is in her 70s and has a HUGE home, lots of places for the kids to explore/get lost in). Plus, if I do go over there to visit, I'm sure she'd just see it as me not trusting her to watch them, when the truth is I trust her fine, I don't trust my TODDLER not to go near the pool, and everyone knows how toddlers tend to wander!!
Sorry, I'm starting to rant and rave. Perspective, please. WWYD?