My husband and I have been married for 8 years. Yesterday, he had a day off and was moving some things so he could repair the light in our coat closet. I was out running some errands. And as he was shifting things a disposable e-cig fell out of my parka. (Now, I've been a closet smoker since I was a teen, and not even my husband knew I smoke). So he calls me, tells me what happened, and with a strange-sounding tone in his voice. asked, "Did you know it was in there?" (Hell no, I didn't. Duh!). I just told him, "We'll talk about this later." (Whereupon I really needed a cigarette!). Long story short: we had a "moment of truth" discussion when I got home. He is shocked, and told me he had no idea that I was smoking. He's never smoked and hates the smell of it, so he really doesn't understand how addictive it is. Of course, he wants me to quit for my health's sake. I have tried and failed a number of times.
In some ways I am so relieved he discovered my secret. I hated deceiving him, but I never was able to confess it to him. I'm also very addicted to nicotine gum, which for years I've used to get me through the times when we were together for an extended period of time (weekends, vacations, etc.). I still haven't gotten up the nerve to smoke in front of him. Being honest with him about this was sooooo hard.