Paternity help - I don't think my oldest son belongs to my DH after all
I know I'll get bashed for this but I really don't know what to do.
When I was in my early 20's I was dating my DH and we hit a rough patch. While we were taking a break, I hooked up 3 times with my coworker. A couple weeks past before I realized my period was late. At the time, I assumed the baby belonged to DH and ended it with my coworker.
Now 10 years later, I've had two more children with DH, a daughter and another son. They look so much alike, more alike than their older brother. I don't think my oldest son looks like his dad. He honestly looks most like me, but I can also see some of my coworkers features in him as well. My son also has a full head of curly hair. No one on my side or DH's side has hair like that.
The coworker's wife is on FB and I think my son and his 8 year old daughter look very similar.
With that all being said, where do I go from here? Spend the rest of my life not knowing? If I get a test done and he's not DH's, should I tell them?
I've shared this with 2 close friends. One says test, the other says leave it alone. I would really appreciate opinions and if anyone has any experience with this. It's killing me inside and I just want to do the right thing.