My 14 year old daughter wants to date this boy who is pretty well 16 (he'll be 16 in a few weeks). He is going into 11th grade, and she is going into 9th grade. They both really like each other, and he apparently asked her out. My initial thought was that she's much too young and that because he's older, he might expect things from the relationship that she can't give him due to her age. However, I talked to my husband, and he said that I'm being unreasonable. He said that it would be fine if it was done group-date style (my daughter and this guy along with my daughter's friend and her boyfriend). He said that they could go to the movies or to a free skate (ice skating) session, but not one-on-one and that she couldn't go to his house or anything like that.
Now I'm not sure. I guess I don't really see the harm in them going out as a group because then it's like a group of friends, but it's the whole titling of boyfriend-girlfriend that gets me because then it's a relationship that has strings attached and we all know that you get hurt if you get too emotionally involved. I'm really torn here, so any advice would be helpful. Thanks.