Found out a biiiiiiig family secret by accident. WWYD?
I've always suspected something was funky with my mom's family history. Just never banked on this.
My grandparents are neon-white Irish. As in, all of my great-grandparents were born in Ireland, immigrated turn of the century, all documented, extensive record-keeping from the 1700s on. My mother doesn't look anything like her siblings, but I always assumed maybe my gran had an affair with an Italian or soemthing and that's why my mother's darker.
My SO and I have been talking about having kids in the future and thought it'd be fun to do the 23-and-me test, since he doesn't know who his father is and my father's family is a huge mix.
His came back roughly as expected. Euromutt, little Am. Indian mixed in. Mine... not so much.
Apparently about 20% of my genes come from the Arab middle east, another 26% from the Balkans (I assume that means Serbia/Croatia and Bosnia?) and a bunch of smaller fractions in North Africa and Southern Europe.
It's certainly not from my father's side since they're 10th generation American (Anglo, Irish, Northern Euro, etc) and those groups were accounted for in the rest of my report, and my mother's brother took the same test I did and he's 100% European, so I know it's not me who's adopted.
She's lost both parents and my father in the last 2 years, under huge amounts of stress. I don't know if she could take the shock, if she doesn't know. I doubt she does, the way she rambles on about her Irish ancestors like her DNA is a personal accomplishment.
Should I tell her, or just leave it be since she's gone 60 years without knowing and both her parents are gone anyway?