Is DH and HER alittle to friendly? long but need help..
Dh has this female friend that he has been friends with for maybe going on two and a half years now.. his friendship with her began when he was at the end of his previous relationship .. (yes to get it out of the way DH and i have been together for a year and a half and married now, 9 months. weve known eachother since 5th grade) anywho.. their friendship has me alittle suspect.. and normallyi am NOT the jealous or insecure type, i completley trust my dh and i know he loves me dearly. BUT.. this friendship of theirs has me feeling uneasy..
DH and this friend sometimes go on "ice cream dates" they have a particular ice cream parlor they always go to and sometimes he will pay the bill sometimes she will.. DH said its just innocent and they catch up talk etc.. and they part ways.. this female he claims has a boyfriend..
well at first i was ok with it after all i have male friends (they are ALL GAY btw she is not) ..after about a few months or so i started to feel uneasy about the idea that dh is in public eating ice cream with another woman.. it just doesnt look right .. and i cant see myself doing that with a straight man other than DH..
this friend and him ALSO attend the same church (i do not go this church .. we are two different religions) so i dont even know whether or not they interact there.. im sure though that they do..
when i brought my concerns up to DH about her he has me look at his phone and tells me to scroll through the messages to prove its always innocent , about me or us or her and her bf.. well i scroll to the VERY beginning from about a year ago and DH had sent her a pic message of him blowing a kiss.. he tried to explain to me it was an inside type of joke where they were making fun of ppl who do the kisses (duck face) selfies.. i move past that but still tell him i think they need to tone their friendship down some..
well DH claims to me they hardly speak now... but today i go through our phone bill to schedule a payment and i decide to snoop (yeah yeah its wrong but who cares hes my husband and i have the right) i see DH and her have been texting ALL day yesterday up till midnight. DH is out of town on business he stopped responding to me by 11pm lastnight and the whole time i thought he fell asleep.
also today i see that he has been texting her for the last 3 hours.. i even seen times where there were days he and her messaged eachother but the logs of it werent in his phone.. he deleted them.
she knows of me.. she knows hes married.. she wasnt at our wedding and i have never met her.. i ahvent seen any pictures of her and her "bf" .. is this something to be worried about?
1. am i wrong for thinking they text to late and its disrespectful to me for them to be talking till midnight.
2. am i being a bitch because i dont want them going on public dates together at ice cream parlors?
3. why is dh deleting messages and lying about speaking to her if its all innocent?