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My new friend is very flirty with my husband WWYD?

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I will try and explain this as best as I can so it doesn't get confusing. I met a woman at my playgroup and we got along really well. She is currently working at my husband's job (part time, 3 months) as a contractor so she is only there 2 hours a day. Anyway my husband is the manager so he has to deal with her.

Yesterday she came to my house and my H was home. He was going to run an errand and she asked him if she could go. That seemed a bit strange to me so we all went. The entire time we were out she flirted with my H. He was joking around with her too.

When we got home he went to work and she stayed for an hour or so. She told me "she doesn't understand how anyone could not get along with my H, he is so easy to get along with". She talked about him alot. She told me that when My H gave her some hay for her horses her husband asked her "what did she do to get that, roll around in the hay with him?" Which seemed like a weird thing to say to someone!.

This situation is really bothering me and I am so upset about it. I spoke to my H about her and get got upset with me and we had a big fight. WWYD?

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2014 at 3:13 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:34 AM
My husband has a coworker like that & I finally just said she isn't welcome here. I'm not going to be disrespected.
Dolcepsle
by Platinum Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:34 AM
My husband unintentionally flirts. He is clueless. He's just super friendly with everyone and some women are desperate for attention and feed on it. I point it out and he always says sorry and then tries to be more professional. Men, generally, don't grasp how women deprived of attention can read into anything.

Quoting Texasladybug84: Just tell her straight up maybe even with your dh right there. "Okay enough now"
My hubby at a Verizon store once was laughing and joking around with the lady who was trying to fix my phone. I felt like the odd one out. Afterwards I told hubby you know you were flirting bad with her? He had no idea! He's so clueless. He's professional with all strangers now lol!
MilkLover0203
by Ruby Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:39 AM
Okay, who WANTS to run errands? That alone is strange. But if you trust your husband, don't worry.
MilkLover0203
by Ruby Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:40 AM
I would kick her in the face though.
Texasladybug84
by Platinum Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:51 AM
Exactly. I try to explain to hubby how lots of woman take his charm and niceness the wrong way. He's catching on now after couple woman asked for his number and when he was wearing his cowboy hat, two older ladies wanted to get laid by him. They were drunk and he held the door open for them. Think he got the hint.

Quoting Dolcepsle: My husband unintentionally flirts. He is clueless. He's just super friendly with everyone and some women are desperate for attention and feed on it. I point it out and he always says sorry and then tries to be more professional. Men, generally, don't grasp how women deprived of attention can read into anything.

Quoting Texasladybug84: Just tell her straight up maybe even with your dh right there. "Okay enough now"
My hubby at a Verizon store once was laughing and joking around with the lady who was trying to fix my phone. I felt like the odd one out. Afterwards I told hubby you know you were flirting bad with her? He had no idea! He's so clueless. He's professional with all strangers now lol!
Closet_Case
by Gold Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:53 AM
I have a heavy duty shovel in the garage if ya need it
leavinglasvegas
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 11:56 AM

I am friends with my boss. We chat all of the time. I also know his wife (she's lovely) and we all go out  to dinner together when we are in town. I always ask about his wife, his family, etc. We are FRIENDS - and we don't flirt. He gets along great with DH.

My DH works and travels with lots of women. He also gets occasional emails from wives or girlfriends of his coworkers and friends about job related stuff. His job can be stressful on families, so some of them are requests from women on how to cope with their men being away, etc. I trust my husband and know some of these women. EXCEPT one woman, a girlfriend of a friend of his - she wanted true emotional support from him. Sorry lady, he's MY emotional support. Lots of emails crying on his shoulder. This is the only woman ever that I said - she has to go. If he continued to talk to her, there would be huge problems (he didn't see it and thought he was just being a good friend).There's something there that was inappropriate and wrong. Then I finally met her in a large social setting - bingo! Bad mojo. That event ended badly for her with lots of people.

Long story short - trust your gut. Maybe your husband is oblivious. Maybe you've made some part of him feel guilty...whatever it is, if something about her is making you feel uncomfortable there's a reason, and it isn't insecurity. Just because someone is the opposite gender doesn't mean it's wrong, until there is a little voice inside you that's waving a red flag.

Young_Mommy89
by Gold Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 12:00 PM
New friend being flirty....RUN away from her. My ex bff told my exh a bunch of lies which he believed bcuz he's incredibly insecure, split us up then began fucking him all the while still pretending to be my friend.

He was defensive bcuz you accused him bring it up again calmly and tell him her actions bother you and that you AREN'T saying he was, but that it felt like he flirted back.
baby.cakes.xoxo
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 12:01 PM
Did she work there already when you met her at the play group or did you help get her the job she has? Talk to your husband and let him know how you feel and why. Then if she doesn't stop being so flirtatious then be a lady and tell her exactly what she has said and that she needs to stop her inappropriate behavior. Honestly I wouldn't continue any type of friendship. Also, who is she referring to when she says she can't believe anyone could not get along with him? Is there a chance he is telling her things about your relationship that is making her think she's welcome to do what she is doing?
Young_Mommy89
by Gold Member on Jul. 20, 2014 at 12:04 PM
Many men are sooooo clueless. My ex was texting a girl right before we started dating. Nothing serious just talking as friends, he wasn't interested. She stopped me at school (me and her were still in high school) and told me "you do realize me and him are dating right?" O.o. I laughed in her face. Yes we were in hs but texting back and forth to me was NOT dating.

Some women think a man holding the door means he likes them. Lol


Quoting Dolcepsle: My husband unintentionally flirts. He is clueless. He's just super friendly with everyone and some women are desperate for attention and feed on it. I point it out and he always says sorry and then tries to be more professional. Men, generally, don't grasp how women deprived of attention can read into anything.

Quoting Texasladybug84: Just tell her straight up maybe even with your dh right there. "Okay enough now"
My hubby at a Verizon store once was laughing and joking around with the lady who was trying to fix my phone. I felt like the odd one out. Afterwards I told hubby you know you were flirting bad with her? He had no idea! He's so clueless. He's professional with all strangers now lol!
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