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If we can't afford an abortion how are going to afford a baby?

Anonymous
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About two years ago DH lost his job. He got on unemployment for awhile until he found a job which paid a lot less than he was making. I also went back to work buy am currently only making min wage. We are living paycheck to paycheck

I got an IUD because I had one before and it worked great for us. DH has been trying to get a vasectomy but the insurance won't cover it and it is still pretty expensive. It seems like everytime we have the money saves up something happens. First it was the water heater, then the head gasket, then a car accident.

Well of course with my luck the iud failed. I went in because of random bleeding and I am pregnant. We can't have a baby right now I was hoping I would miscarry but nope the bleeding stopped and everything is okay with the pregnancy.

Dh and I talked about me having an abortion worst case. We both agreed on it.

Well now he is trying to say we should keep the baby! I asked if "If we can't afford an abortion how are we going to afford a baby?" He knows I am right and the whole situation sucks but I am going to take a payday loan out for the abortion and get it done.

I told him I don't care if it takes months or years for him to get a vasectomy but we are not having sex until he does. Clearly the IUD isn't working enough and the sheep skin condoms we use are expensive and don't work that well either

ETA: I had the abortion done.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:06 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:08 AM
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that sucks.

good luck with the whole situation!

 

chickensmommy
by Gold Member on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:09 AM
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Why the hell would you use sheep skin condoms?!
Texor
by Platinum Member on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:10 AM
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Planned Parenthood does vasectomies for $500. 

Good luck.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:11 AM
I am very allergic to latex

Quoting chickensmommy: Why the hell would you use sheep skin condoms?!
Mom-to-2kids
by Emerald Member on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:12 AM
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Maybe someone has a latex allergy

Quoting chickensmommy: Why the hell would you use sheep skin condoms?!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:13 AM
They quoted us both times for $995

Quoting Texor:

Planned Parenthood does vasectomies for $500. 

Good luck.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:15 AM
Call the abortion clinic and see if they offer financial assistance. The one I went to did.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:19 AM
They were able to discount it but I still have to pay $300. They don't have payment plans or anything. Another clinic has payment plans but I would have to pay $600 so this is just better overall

Quoting Anonymous: Call the abortion clinic and see if they offer financial assistance. The one I went to did.
AjsMom0508
by Gold Member on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:19 AM
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They do make non latex condoms that are not sheepskin and are about the price of regular condoms and they work well if used properly.
Texor
by Platinum Member on Jul. 22, 2014 at 8:20 AM
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Wow...I guess it's different depending on where you live. 

Also, try calling this organization: http://www.lilithfund.org/

It helps low income people pay for an abortion.  I'm not sure if it's only Texas or not, but they may have other resources for you as well.

Quoting Anonymous: They quoted us both times for $995
Quoting Texor:

Planned Parenthood does vasectomies for $500. 

Good luck.


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