***UPDATE***I expect my wife to have dinner ready when I get home
I've tried talking to her, but she gets upset and says that's why she married a woman and not a man, so she wouldn't have to be a slave.
She gets her hair done, her nails done, goes shopping....
Am I being unreasonable???
UPDATE -- Thank you all for your comments. Last night I talked to my wife. I got home, cleaned the kitchen and made dinner. After dinner I picked up,.she put our son to bed and after I told her I needed to talk.
I told her I was sorry for not talking with her beforehand about what I assumed life would be like with her staying at home. I told her that I want her to be happy, but that I'm also tired and need some help. I understand that I can't force her to cook or clean, but that I couldn't continue doing it all either. I asked her if she would be willing to do some of the chores.
She admitted that she didn't like anything domestic other than being a mom. She really wasn't willing to change anything.
So, I told her that was fine. I can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, but I'm not willing to do it either. I told her I would be hiring a housekeeper to come in 3-4 days a week, but that meant she couldn't keep getting her nails done or go shopping because that money in the budget would go to the housekeeper.
She got really mad. She said I was using my money to force her into a subservient role in our marriage and that I lied to her, etc.
I'm feeling very down today. Don't know what to do. I love her. I'm trying to convince myself that I can keep going the way things are, but I'm not sure I can. I'd like to talk with my mom about it, but I know that's not the wisest thing.
Any opinions are appreciated. Thanks.