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It's hard being a single mom!

Anonymous
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I'm not really even sure where to start, but navigating through the trials and tribulations of being a single mom has been really odd, difficult, thrilling, and peaceful all at the same time.  My divorce was final in May, but I've been separated from my ex for a year now.  I've dated two different men who turned out to be total mistakes and a waste of my time.  I realize I wasn't ready to date in the first place, but a part of me just craves that human touch and contact.  Now that it's over and done with (with my husband and with the relationships), I find myself being really cold and not believing in love at all.  It seems like everytime I've grown attached to a man, it simply ends in disaster then there's the worry of getting an std or something from him after the relationship goes south.  I'm on dating sites, but I generally don't follow through on dates.  I'm rejecting men that I actually like because I just don't want the hassle of having to make time for someone else.  I have a great routine of going to work, coming home, caring for my kids, and going out with friends on the weekend.  What more do I really need ?  I find myself missing sex, but not that much anymore as I have a vibrator that does a great job.  As a matter of fact, I'm starting to like porn and vibrator.....I know that sounds bad.  I'm just slowing turning my attitude to be more like a man I guess because every time I give my heart to a man, he hurts me.  I'm actually starting to feel that I'm not meant to have a boyfriend or husband.  I want it in some ways, but in others, it just really doesn't seem with it.  I get why men get non-commital.....it's so much time, effort, and energy for what???  

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2014 at 2:23 PM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 2:34 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 2:39 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 3:26 PM

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Lilith23
by on Jul. 23, 2014 at 3:29 PM
So, stop trying so hard.
No dating site, no searching and take time to love yourself instead of std testing yourself :)
enjoy being alone.
A man will not make you more of a woman, it's ok to be single you know.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 3:34 PM


Quoting Lilith23: So, stop trying so hard. No dating site, no searching and take time to love yourself instead of std testing yourself :) enjoy being alone. A man will not make you more of a woman, it's ok to be single you know.

im not really trying :/

Lilith23
by on Jul. 23, 2014 at 3:37 PM
Good, well enjoy the porn and vibro.
Maybe one day you won't realise it and bam! You have a good man and a happy life.
And by the way, there is nothing wrong being into porn.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Lilith23: So, stop trying so hard.
No dating site, no searching and take time to love yourself instead of std testing yourself :)
enjoy being alone.
A man will not make you more of a woman, it's ok to be single you know.

im not really trying :/

SitaStJames
by *Sita* on Jul. 23, 2014 at 3:59 PM

I was in that mind set when my current husband came into my life. He was stubborn, persistant and wouldnt give up. (lol) Sometimes it happens when you stop looking for it and hoping for it. ;-) In the mean time just enjoy being single and having fun doing you.

mantyangel
by Platinum Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 4:07 PM

Been there.  Yes it is hard.  Made every mistake you can think of too. Hated every romantic movie too.  Felt like it was all bullshit. Pushed away many men that might have been decent because felt like it will only end anyway.  I am in a relationship now and it is going good. I think we work because we are committed as in only dating each other, but otherwise we are both scared to take it any further lol.  We do not live together, just not ready for that now that I have lived on my own for 5 years now.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 4:15 PM
That's what it will take for a man to capture me at this point

Quoting SitaStJames:

I was in that mind set when my current husband came into my life. He was stubborn, persistant and wouldnt give up. (lol) Sometimes it happens when you stop looking for it and hoping for it. ;-) In the mean time just enjoy being single and having fun doing you.

SitaStJames
by *Sita* on Jul. 23, 2014 at 4:28 PM

 dont blame you. Besides should make a guy work for it to be with you because you're worth the effort.

Quoting Anonymous: That's what it will take for a man to capture me at this point
Quoting SitaStJames:

I was in that mind set when my current husband came into my life. He was stubborn, persistant and wouldnt give up. (lol) Sometimes it happens when you stop looking for it and hoping for it. ;-) In the mean time just enjoy being single and having fun doing you.

 

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