abuse survivors, I need suggestions ETA, #2, #3-link(s)
I am in martial arts, and when I hit black belt in a year or two, I want to go into shelters to help survivors of domestic violence from the stance of self defense. What I need help with is knowing what types of violence is usually present so I can show people how to defend themselves. My ex never hit me, and so I need to know how to help. Please, no bashing. Excuse any mistakes. Net is down here atm, and I am doing this from my phone.
Now that my net is back up, I need to add a few things. First off, I know that getting out is easier said than done for a LOT of victims. I've been there, and I'm not judging. The purpose of this post is to get an idea of how to help those whose lives could be in immediate danger. Do I advise fighting back? All situations are different. Abusers can become angrier if stood up against while others will back down. Only you know your situation, but if something that is talked about saves a life, it will be worth it.
I really appreciate all the replies and would like to see more.
On page 8, there was an attack on me (calling a spade a spade) where stats were posted on women who fight back. I asked her to post the link to the article, and she refused saying that since I was the expert that I could google it myself. Well, I did.
The link is to the Michigan Women's Justice & Clemency Project, and it can be found here. It is actually a very good article and answers some questions that are common about why women never leave and other things. However, I must stress that this is Michigan and that the laws in your state may vary.
The key here is SURVIVAL. If you plan to fight back, plan to leave and STAY GONE. Yes, you could end up in prison if your fight ends in murder, but in doing this research, I have found articles on women who would rather be in prison than to continue to endure the abuse. The choice is yours. My goal is to get the information to the ladies who want and need it. What they choose to do with it is up to them, and I stand by that statement. I would rather a lady (or a gentleman) fight back than be killed, but I also know that fighting back could further enrage an abuser thus resulting in the victim's own death. Only the abused knows their situation, but even that is a gamble.