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I give up!!!

Anonymous
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My son is NOT a bad kid. He's actually a very good kid, great about getting himself up, going to bed, listening to and minding adults...but he is having some SERIOUS outbursts. He is freaking out when he loses at a game, or when he's instructed to do something he doesn't want to do. Screaming, yelling, crying, flailing like a toddler, the whole nine yards.
We have NEVER tolerated tantrums and we aren't now. I just want to quit. He is so strong willed and, regardless of how we discipline him, he just freaks out more as a result of the discipline. I just want to quit. I am so completely overwhelmed and have no idea what to do with him anymore.
(We use time outs and revoke privileges/take items). Tonight, as a result of an absolute tantrum over losing a game, I took a dog he sleeps with most nights (no, it's not his security item and he does NOT need it to sleep...he just really likes it) and he didn't get a cookie. Now he's upstairs absolutely losing his marbles.
He is 7 and I am done.
(Not really, I just need to vent...I am so frustrated with this. Yes, his dad, my husband, is involved and is dealing with him right now.)
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:46 PM
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Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:48 PM
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So this is a sudden change in behavior?  Have you talked to his Pediatrician about it at all?

When he's good, do you spend special time with him?  Are there siblings involved?  Any major life changes?

CadillacCutie
by Silver Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:48 PM
Have you thought about counseling?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:50 PM
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Since he came back from his grandparents, but he goes to see them EVERY summer. I am about to take him to his pediatrician and/or a behavioral specialist. It's been about 2 weeks.
We spend tons of time together. Last week, he and I went to the water park for the day. We get ice cream from the ice cream truck, play games, etc. Today he went to school with me so I could turn in some paper work and played with one of my professor's sons. No siblings and no life changes. I'm at a loss.

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

So this is a sudden change in behavior?  Have you talked to his Pediatrician about it at all?

When he's good, do you spend special time with him?  Are there siblings involved?  Any major life changes?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:51 PM
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I have. He has seen a behavior specialist twice (once when he was about 2 and once when he was 4) and I'm about to take him again. We aren't bad parents. I just don't know what this is all about.

Quoting CadillacCutie: Have you thought about counseling?
lovetoteachec
by Dani on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:53 PM
Counseling is good. My daughter is in it to help her.
CadillacCutie
by Silver Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:53 PM
I don't think you're bad parents. There is just something going on with him that needs to be dealt with. What did the specialists say?

Quoting Anonymous: I have. He has seen a behavior specialist twice (once when he was about 2 and once when he was 4) and I'm about to take him again. We aren't bad parents. I just don't know what this is all about.

Quoting CadillacCutie: Have you thought about counseling?
CamJen
by Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:53 PM
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I'm going through this with my 6 1/2 yr old daughter. I used to be a bus driver for many years and I think it's a stage they go through between 6 & 7 yrs old. I know it's frustrating and quote honestly miserable but one thing I think works is consistency which you are doing and it will work out (saw it on my bus and parents who've gone through it will agree) also make sure to take time for yourself too (we mamas need that from time to time)
Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 9:55 PM

What is it this summer with Grandparents?  There was another post recently about a 6 year old being awful after spending time with his Grandma....

He's just testing his boundaries, I think.  Call Grandma, and without accusing, ask what his routine was like.  Let her know you're having some trouble this time and want to help him get back on track before school starts.  See if she'll cooperate and let you know if anything out there maybe inadvertently encouraged the behavior.

Until then, be consistent with your discipline.  Don't change it drastically.  He's testing to see if things are different, so reassure him that they are not.  Be proactive, and before something happens explain the rules to him and that discipline is the same.  Then stick to it.

For example, 20 minutes before bedtime explain that it's almost bedtime.  Tell him what will happen if he doesn't go to bed.  Then as bedtime approaches, get him doing his night routine and follow through.

Quoting Anonymous: Since he came back from his grandparents, but he goes to see them EVERY summer. I am about to take him to his pediatrician and/or a behavioral specialist. It's been about 2 weeks. We spend tons of time together. Last week, he and I went to the water park for the day. We get ice cream from the ice cream truck, play games, etc. Today he went to school with me so I could turn in some paper work and played with one of my professor's sons. No siblings and no life changes. I'm at a loss.
Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

So this is a sudden change in behavior?  Have you talked to his Pediatrician about it at all?

When he's good, do you spend special time with him?  Are there siblings involved?  Any major life changes?


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2014 at 10:03 PM
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Both times in the past, that he was fine, well adjusted and our methods were very good and effective. She assured me he didn't need to be seen regularly but that bringing him in was good parenting.

Quoting CadillacCutie: I don't think you're bad parents. There is just something going on with him that needs to be dealt with. What did the specialists say?

Quoting Anonymous: I have. He has seen a behavior specialist twice (once when he was about 2 and once when he was 4) and I'm about to take him again. We aren't bad parents. I just don't know what this is all about.

Quoting CadillacCutie: Have you thought about counseling?
CadillacCutie
by Silver Member on Jul. 23, 2014 at 10:06 PM
I don't know what to say. I'm hoping it's just a phase of some kind. :(

Quoting Anonymous: Both times in the past, that he was fine, well adjusted and our methods were very good and effective. She assured me he didn't need to be seen regularly but that bringing him in was good parenting.

Quoting CadillacCutie: I don't think you're bad parents. There is just something going on with him that needs to be dealt with. What did the specialists say?

Quoting Anonymous: I have. He has seen a behavior specialist twice (once when he was about 2 and once when he was 4) and I'm about to take him again. We aren't bad parents. I just don't know what this is all about.

Quoting CadillacCutie: Have you thought about counseling?
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