DH and I have two wonderful children - age 3 and 6 months. His dad and stepmom also have a three year old ( we did not have kids super early - his stepmom is younger than his dad)
But they aren't ever around for my kids and it bothers me. He is the only grandpa my kids have and it's hurtful. They aren't my parents so I don't feel like it's my place to say anything but I also want my kids to grow up with grandparents.
I used to not let it upset me, but it's really starting to. My mom and DH's mom come around a lot and LOVE to call, visit, etc but his dad and stepmom just don't care. To make matters worse the 2 three year olds LOVE each other...and enjoy doing things together but we can't even get them to make plans with us and stick to them - unless we are babysitting for them.
Any tips on how to bring it up or learn how to deal with it on my own without bringing it up?