Flash forward 20 years and the man of her dreams becomes a recruiter and tells an 18 year old kid that if he enlists he and his wife would raise his younger brother who was 3 at the time. My cousin and her loser husband go to court and are awarded some sort of custody of the kid. They can't adopt him because his parents still have rights but I also don't believe it's a foster care situation. Bottom line is they get no help from the state or the bio parents of this kid.
2 years later loser gets transferred to another state and meets a woman and leaves my cousin for her.
Cue the nasty divorce. Their oldest is 18 so no child support is awarded for her and since the youngest isn't theirs he doesn't pay child support for him so he's only paying child support for one kid and because my cousin hasn't had a job in 20 years all she can find are low paying jobs.
In this time frame her daughter moves an hour away to go to school and to start her own life. My grandmother is livid that she isn't helping her mother financially. She expects her to quit school get a job and move in with her mom and brothers and help mom with the bills.
She and I got into an argument over it because while I think it would be nice for her to help her mom I don't think it's fair to expect an 18 year old kid to put her life on hold either. My grandmother is threatening to write her out of the will if she doesn't quit school and I feel that's incredibly unfair to demand she help financially support her mom and brothers.
Let me clarify some things. First my grandmother is financially helping my cousin. I don't know to what extent though. She also goes to my cousins house after school and babysits the kids until my cousin comes in from work.
My cousin does work. She works at a daycare making minimum wage and they do not give her 40 hours a week. She also works on the weekend at a retail establishment. I believe she works every Saturday.
She almost def qualifies for food stamps but refuses to get help.