starting to resent my my S/Os child...i know it's not fair, how do I stop?
My S/O and I just had our 3 year anniversary in April. He has a 7 year old DD and her mom 100 percent left her life when she was 2. Since then not one phone call, letter, email. Nothing.
The first year was great when we were dating but living apart. He was a great dad, attentive to me, worked 2 jobs the whole shebang.
At the start of our second year we moved in together. Immediately I was thrust 24/7 into "mom" role. I worked while she was at school, he worked from 4pm to midnight so all care after 4pm fell to me. I sometimes felt frustrated because I was no longer free to do whatever whenever. But hey that's part of being "mom" right. We never said who bought what for her, if she needed it. Whoever was out bought it. By this time he was down to one job and we split all bills. Slowly things started shifting more and more to my shoulders though.
Fast forward to dec 2013, job loss. Since jan 2014 he has been fired from 3 seperate jobs. All his daughters financial needs plus daily parenting has fallen on my shoulders. I also am paying ALL the bills. I have compleately used all my savings tryinf to keep us afloat along with using my job income.
I have noticed I have become rather short temered with his daughter. Doing things like playing barbies irritates me to no end. Today we did back to school shopping and it really mad me mad "I" was the one who had to purchase EVERYTHING for her. She isn't *my* daughter but then I tell myself this is what I signed up for.
Dont get me wrong, i have atrempted to talk to him about his not working and I am angry as hell at him, and he just says it will get better and it doesn't. I don't wanna traumatize his daughter by walking out but I am literally at the end of my rope. Because I know someone will mention it, yes he has asked me to marry him. I told him I wanted to wait until we could afford a decent wedding, not a court house affair. At this point i am very glad it didn't happen.