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"my daughter is cruel to animals"

Posted by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:54 PM
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My Daughter Is Cruel to Animals & I'm Okay With That
by Judy Dutton on Today at 3:10 PM
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For my daughter's 4th birthday, my dad presented her with a wild salamander he'd found under a rock and stuck in a terrarium. He thought it would provide my daughter, Indiana, or "Indy" for short, with some amusement, and it sure did. First she pulled off its tail (salamanders can grow them back, but still!). She then poked and prodded the poor thing so much, I thought it would die of fear. When I finally insisted we set it free in the woods, she decided to chuck it into the middle of a lake. Can salamanders swim? Hope so.


Many kids are cruel to animals -- or so I've heard. This does not make it right, but it does give me some assurance that I probably don't have a budding psychopath on my hands. Of course, I do try to curb this habit of hers. For instance, Indy is also a serial ant killer: She squishes them with her fingers, stomps on the sidewalk. I've tried to drive home that ants feel pain and really don't want to die, to cultivate a sense of empathy by asking, "How would you like it if someone stepped on you?" This just makes her laugh and stomp more.

I remind myself that I was just like her as a kid: that I, too, held wild salamanders captive in a terrarium. And mine actually died -- not from manhandling or drowning, but from starvation, since I wasn't sure what to feed them, but still wasn't willing to set them free. Was that any less cruel?

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And besides, torturing ants and salamanders isn't as egregious as, say, accosting cats and dogs -- that's real animal cruelty, right? Then, of course, the day arrived recently when Indy took her tea party tray, removed the cups and teapot, and used it to smack our rat terrier Toby on his rump. She loves that dog ... so what was going on? I grabbed my daughter immediately, took away the tray, and said, "We DON'T. HIT. DOGS."

Indy hasn't hit him since. Still, though, the fact that she would if I hadn't yelled at her makes me worry. First ants, then salamanders, now dogs. Are her torturous ways slowly inching up the food chain? Will she lash out at her friends next or me?

My husband, as a kid, killed ants by frying them with a magnifying glass. He then moved onto birds, shooting at them with a BB gun. Then one day, at the age of 14, he watched a bird he'd shot die ... and suddenly a light bulb went on. He was filled with remorse, hung up his BB gun, and vowed to never hurt another animal again.

Maybe that's what my daughter needs to do too: Figure out for herself that what she's doing is wrong. I can scold 'til the cows come home, and while she might alter her behavior (in front of me, at least), perhaps she'll have to come to her own realization that causing pain in living creatures just isn't cool. In the meantime, I let her stomp down the sidewalk and pray that if reincarnation is real, she doesn't come back in her next life as an ant.

Is your kid cruel to animals?




http://thestir.cafemom.com/big_kid/175220/kid_cruel_to_animals
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1TallMamaCA
by Gold Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:55 PM
BrutalTruth
by urbullyisshowing on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:57 PM
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Um, no. Wtf?
"Many kids are cruel to animals".. orly?
My kid has never been cruel to animals.
Roxygurl
by Sapphire Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:58 PM
Saw that and thought she was a tad sick in her line of thinking.
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Larae1990
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:58 PM
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No not really, she tries to dance with the cats or put baby clothes on them but that's it. O.o
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R00k
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:59 PM
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Well, her kid is four. She has a point. Her empathy switch has not been flipped yet. I would be more concerned that her husband's didn't flip until he was fourteen...
wymama610
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:59 PM

WTF? No, my kids aren't evil, cruel, spawns of satan. 

1TallMamaCA
by Gold Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:00 PM
I know right? My high functioning asd kid with violent outburst never once has hurt an animal. He has comprehension delays and is five and knows better. My ss with mild fas and is three knows better my nt 2 year old ds knows better this is freaking insane.

Quoting BrutalTruth: Um, no. Wtf?

"Many kids are cruel to animals".. orly?

My kid has never been cruel to animals.
romalove
by SakePrincess on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:00 PM
Speechless over this. NOT OK!!!
navywife0204
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:02 PM

well, ant and spiders are not going to survive long in my house, because I will kill them!  I just hope that you or she are never in a situation where you have to hunt for your food...

halsmommy14
by Gold Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:02 PM
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another 'amazing' peice by our writers at The Stir lol  what a joke.  those 'women' that write that garbage are such jokes

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