I have been with my husband 13 years and I have always called his parents either by their names or grandma and grandpa when talking with the kids. I have never felt comfortable making that transition to mom and dad. However my husband's brother's wife called them mom and dad from day one. Before she was even engaged to his brother! She even gives them cards and gifts with those titles on it. She calls them to chat and texts my FIL while he's at work. I'm not hating on her relationship and I'm not jealous that she feels closer to them then me. I'm just curious if it's easy for others to call their in-laws mom and dad. If you do how long did it take you to make that transition? Did you ask their permission to start staying it or did they ask you to start saying it? I don't think I will ever call them mom and dad is that bad??