SIL named her DD after my DD who passed away, without asking us *EDIT
DH and I lost a DD a few years ago named Ruby. We've gone on to have more kids and SIL recently had a DD And named her Ruby. We are so hurt and upset. I can't see or think of this child without thinking of my Ruby. She apparently told others what she was planning on naming her DD but didn't tell us so knew it would be hurtful. What would you feel or do? These are first cousins. This is not a troll post; this is real. I'm so hurt and don't know what to feel right now. I can't bear to call that child my deceased daughter's name.
EDIT: SIL has made it very clear this was not in tribute to our daughter. She just wanted the name for her own daughter. So this isn't about honoring our daughter.