I don't live a hectic life, and it irritates me when people try to glorify theirs
With 3 children (14, 13, 11), there are some hectic times. This weekend was one of them. It was middle child's birthday, along with school shopping, plus paying first of the month bills. It's a miracle we got it all done. It was very stressful on myself, DF, & the kids. One of the kids asked me last night what time we had to be up this morning, and I said she could sleep in because there were no plans for today. She was so happy! Now I'm sitting here on Sunday morning decompressing, and it's nice. I have no plans for today aside from cooking dinner later.
Hectic times like this are rare in my household, thank god.
I see people posting/talking about their lives that tend to be like this all the time, most of the time, or even more often than not, and I don't know how they do it. I wouldn't be happy if my life was like that, I would be in a constant state of stress & emotional turmoil. I don't know how their kids do it. I don't know how their kids can emotionally develop and become a whole, happy individual without enough (or ANY) time to just "be".
I don't think kids benefit from a full schedule, or even a mostly full schedule. There's this mentality that if you keep your kids busy, you will keep them out of trouble. Maybe. But you are also keeping them from being themselves & being happy. You are raising robots that know how to perform task after task, go from point A to point B, and function for max efficiency. You are sacrificing their happiness and individuality for that. It seems like a bum deal to me.
My oldest has a friend like that. She's been trying to get her to come over to the house & play for years, or vice versa. The kid wants to--so, so bad, but there's never enough time in her schedule. The kid is sad--not in a blatant way, but it definitely shows through. Poor thing.
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.
Also, a little video games never hurt.