ok so DH and i just found out that were are expecting again. we have two boys, we are hoping for a girl. or he is hoping for a girl, i dont care either way. i have tried telling him that another boy wouldnt be so bad. im happy with what ever we get. but he feels differently, to start with he only wanted one child. the reason being was because he was raised in a large family and was left to take care of his siblings. he didnt get much of a childhood because of it. so he doesnt want his child to have to be responseable for siblings. of course that changed when we welcomed our second son, but a 3rd boy is out of the question. this baby has to be a girl or we are not having it, two boys is already enough. i have talked to him more then a few times about it but i guess it doesnt matter because he has already made up his mind that if this is a boy we are aborting.
adoption is at this time out of the question. he doesnt want me to have the baby and then have to wait another year to get pregnant again. im already well into my 30's, so popping out 2 or 3 more boys are not going to happen. in his eyes we would probably end up with 6 or 7 boys before a girl and he wont stand for it.
i have told him we can go to the doctor and have IVF or something else done to make it sure we get a girl. but he doesnt want to spend that kind of money on something that he feels will probably not work.
so im stuck, hurt and upset.. i was happy to be pregnant again until hubby sat me down and told me that he wasnt and wont be unless its a girl. now im pro-choice, but im not exactly feeling it right now.. i just want to crawl under a rock.