How important is intelligence equality in your relationship?
When I was younger, I thought none of that mattered... Until I married my first husband. Now he wasn't dumb or even below average intelligence but we were at very different levels. He would complain that I talked down to him and despite my best efforts I realized that I was in his mind and definition. When I corrected it I felt like I wasn't myself. I would have to use smaller words or explain things differently etc..
Now when he said I was talking down.. It wasn't me being rude or mean.. He meant it in that I would use words he didn't know or topics that were beyond him and take it as an insult.
Anyway, we got divorced (for many other reasons) and my "new" husband is an intellectual equal. It makes life so much easier and more fun!
Now everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.. I may have a large vocab but I suck at spelling.. I don't care about people's book smarts and many things make a person, however in a spouse I have now come to realize that it's important.
What are your thoughts? Do you think it's important? Has it caused issues in your relationships? If you have a big gap and have no issues, how do you balance things and make it work?
And before I get bashed.. I'm not taking about stupidity.. There are different levels of intelligence and even people considered highly intelligent may have issues with a genius... That's the gaps I mean.