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Secretly taking birth control

Anonymous
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My brother and bus wife have been TTC for 2 years. He has been so stressed about it. My parents keep making him feel pressured talking about having a boy to carry the name.

His wife has been going on spa days to relax. They have seen therapist, crazy fertility home remedies.

Yesterday my brother found out she has been taking birth control pills. His wife said she doesnt really want children but knew he would dicorce her. He stayed at my house last night. He is seriously considering divorce.

He is 45, he knows he doesn't have a ticking clock but he doesn't want to be too old to raise a child. Now he has to start over. I feel bad for him.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:28 AM
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zeenah
by Zarah on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:30 AM

That's sad. Dh was 45 when he became a dad for the first time. 

"It's a boy!" 

booaura
by Platinum Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:31 AM
Her body, her choice. She should have told him though. Children are a big deal.
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bethieboo88
by on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:32 AM
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That is so fucked up.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:32 AM
My brother will probably be 50. By the time he gets the divorce, finds someone, marries, Ect. My daughter told him to find a surrogate. Lol

Quoting zeenah:

That's sad. Dh was 45 when he became a dad for the first time. 

crescentstar2
by Anne on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:33 AM
Shame on her for not talking it over like an adult
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:33 AM
I took birth control behind my ex husbands back shortly after we were married. We each had a child from a previous marriage and I felt we weren't at a stable finicial position to have a child and our home at the time wasn't big enough. He argued and disagreed constantly with my opinion. He came to me after a year of deciding to TTC and all of the sudden didn't want to have a baby anymore so I'm thankful for what I done.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:33 AM
She used her body and choice to manipulate him. She lied about her choice.

Quoting booaura: Her body, her choice. She should have told him though. Children are a big deal.
kaybayblee3
by Platinum Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:34 AM
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 Damn. Did they not discuss this when they got married?

An0nym0use
by Rock Lobster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:34 AM
That sort of deception would be a deal breaker to me.
I don't care if you don't want kids, but don't pretend you do and then prevent it. It's not fair to either party.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 5, 2014 at 10:34 AM

It's sad his wife felt like she had no choice but to lie to him. Not every woman wants to be a mother and that's okay. It sounded like your brother just wanted the baby to get your parents off his back. If it was really important for him to start a family he wouldn't have waited until his mid 

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