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I punished my daughter for having a speech impediment.

Anonymous
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Last year, my daughter (7at the time) started stammering and drawing out certain vowels.  None of her teachers had ever heard the speech issue, she ONLY did it at home.

I recorded it, and the teachers were shocked.  You could not make out a single word she said.  Her teacher said in 30 yrs of teaching  she had never heard anything like that.  

I made an appt and saw a speech therapist. On the way there I explained we were going to see a special doctor for her speech so her voice didn't get stuck like that forever.  Magically, DD began speaking normally the day of the appointment and stopped stammering altogether.  Completely, within 10 minutes, she stopped stammering, drawign out vowels and spoke like your average child.  

It's been a year.

Now, this week she has started this bullshit again.  Only now she is doing it even worse.  She is mumbling to the point she makes no damn sense.  Then when I say "speak up" she draws in a HUGE breath, holds it and speaks in a high pitched squeak so that there is no voice.  When she obviously can't make words with that ridiculousness, she mimes and makes garbled humming noises with her mouth closed.

Or, she pulls this stammering drawn out vowel shit again, only it's much more pronounced and incomprehensable than last year.

It has been a week of this.  I am beyond done with this ridiculous fake impediment. She just stammered out some long mumbled gibberish in response to a question and I let her know she was no longer allowed to speak for the rest of the day.

I gave her a chalkboard and a piece of chalk.  She may write whatever she has to say.  I elt her know if she will not speak properly, then she may not speak at all.  Tomorrow she can try again to find her voice.

Just because it's cm, I want to make clear, this girl has no special needs, yes she has been tested by doctors.  Yes, I have gotten second opinions.  She has no speech impediments.  I have seen specialists, gotten second opinions and 3rd opinions.  I have also had her hearing checked.  All doctors who have addressed this issue have all agreed, this is a behavioral issue.

Edit...  I thought I as thorough above. Yes, she has seen a child psychologist.  I repeat, this is BEHAVIORAL.  She is not under any undue stress, there is no underlying psychological issue.  She's being a brat, that's really all there is to it.

EDIT AGAIN.  Seriously ladies?  Are you all trolling me with this? AGAIN I have to explain, she does not need therapy.  No, she is not afraid of me, nor is she nervous.  Why do you ladies need to find some blame in the mother and some psychological cause for bad habits?  LOL!

Funny how so many are insistant that I am to blame, or needs a therapist, and yet, after a small while of having to write everything she could speak with PERFECT clarity to complain about writing and to tell me she can speak properly.  

Kids act up, there doesn't always have to be a reason.

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:23 AM
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Bethsunshine
by Emerald Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:25 AM
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Have you tried to figure out why she is doing this?

BrutalTruth
by urbullyisshowing on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:25 AM
Why would a kid want a speach impediment? That's so freaking weird...is she like, mimicking an accent or something?
mommybear91
by Gold Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:26 AM
She doesn't tell you why she's doing this?
Robin-Christine
by Silver Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:27 AM
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It sounds like an attention getter,is she getting bored with summer? I honestly do not know and agree with your decision

macbudsmom
by Ruby Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:27 AM
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Have you taken her to a psychiatrist?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:29 AM

No, my honest opinion, she is doing it to piss me off.  It seems to come up when she is being asked to do somethign she doesn't like.  She also is one of those kids who magically "forgets" how to do things when she doesn't want to do it.  Karina, do the dishes...  Mommy how do I turn on the water???


Quoting BrutalTruth: Why would a kid want a speach impediment? That's so freaking weird...is she like, mimicking an accent or something?


twinmommy27
by Ruby Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:29 AM
She's stressed out about something. Are you or dad stressed and taking it out on her?
BrutalTruth
by urbullyisshowing on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:31 AM
Lol I'm sorry to laugh but that would seriously piss me off. Maybe she's bored?

Quoting Anonymous:

No, my honest opinion, she is doing it to piss me off.  It seems to come up when she is being asked to do somethign she doesn't like.  She also is one of those kids who magically "forgets" how to do things when she doesn't want to do it.  Karina, do the dishes...  Mommy how do I turn on the water???

Quoting BrutalTruth: Why would a kid want a speach impediment? That's so freaking weird...is she like, mimicking an accent or something?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:31 AM

she's not stressed out.

It's a bad behavior, much like anything else.  A bit more creative I'll admit.

But there isn't some deep underlying cause to this.

Quoting twinmommy27: She's stressed out about something. Are you or dad stressed and taking it out on her?


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:32 AM
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Now that you mention it, we've been indoors for 8 days straight, it's been raining like crazy here.  Tomorrow the forecast is sunshine, fingers crossed, so I can get these kids outside and doing something.

Quoting BrutalTruth: Lol I'm sorry to laugh but that would seriously piss me off. Maybe she's bored?
Quoting Anonymous:

No, my honest opinion, she is doing it to piss me off.  It seems to come up when she is being asked to do somethign she doesn't like.  She also is one of those kids who magically "forgets" how to do things when she doesn't want to do it.  Karina, do the dishes...  Mommy how do I turn on the water???


Quoting BrutalTruth: Why would a kid want a speach impediment? That's so freaking weird...is she like, mimicking an accent or something?



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