I'm married to my 2nd husband. My first husband died in Iraq before my son was born and DH is the only father DS has ever known, we have been married since he was a year old and DS is 5 now. DH does not have any other children and neither do I, although we are hoping to have a biological child of our own soon.
I am not, in any way, shape or form, saying that I'm glad my first husband/DS's dad is dead. But after reading/hearing all these blended family horror stories, I think that it makes it easier to have a blended family. Just the fact that there's no worry over offending the biological parents, no children feeling left out, no step siblings from either side, no getting pulled between two families. I just think we have it a lot easier than a lot of blended families. I think that if the situation had been reversed and my first DH and I divorced,I wouldn't have felt so confident about getting remarried, especially with DS in the picture.
Does anyone understand where I'm coming from or does thinking that make me a horrible person?