So dh and I were coming home tonight from a family members house when I jokingly said how come you don't say I'm pretty anymore... His response was well are you in shape? I was caught off guard with that but answered with a no and he said "well then". I was so hurt is couldn't even say anything I agree yes I have not lost all the weight since I had my daughter 9 months ago. I just didn't know he felt this way. So I'm worried he may not even love me anymore I mean after losing an attraction to someone then you start to fall out of love. I'm so sad, and angry at myself for letting it get to this point. I used to be in such good shape when we met and got married now I just can't seem to get rid of these extra 15 pounds. I have decided to start a strict diet and exercise program tomorrow. I just don't want to lose dh because I was a fat ass.
so I have read as many posts as I can some are funny, some were cruel, while others were very helpful. So let me say this first thank you for the support and making me feel confident and beautiful again I spoke with dh and he apologized he said "I didn't mean you weren't beautiful anymore just that I wish you would get back in shape, I love you and am very attracted to you! " So for myself and only me and the thought of being healthy for my daughter so she has a good example I am getting healthy again :)
NOW to those who brought my child into this and said I was a bad mom because I let what my husband said hurt me GO FUCK YOURSELF! Do not bring my child into things just because a mom is having a bad day and posts for support and wisdom does not mean you need to pretend to be all high and mighty and and tell me how to raise my child or what to teach her. I didn't asking for your "parenting advice" so don't give it.
to everyone else have a wonderful day and thank you for helping me get my confidence back and realize I am beautiful no matter what. :) :) :) :)